Establish remote connection to PostGreSQL database

I asked the following question recently: "Is it possible to connect to my PostGreSQL database remotely?" The answer I received from Scott was: "Thank you for your PostGreSQL connection question. You can certainly connect to the database. As long as you have a connection tool such as HeidiSQL. You can also connect via SSH by using the command: psql DBNAME USERNAME" Unfortunately, Scott left out quite a bit of that command, and it doesn't work anyway. That would be the command that I would use if I wanted to connect to the PostGreSQL databaseon my local computer (actually it would be "psql -d DBNAME -U USERNAME"), but I guess I wasn't real clear in my question. I have an account with InMotionHosting for my website (http://www.flagstaffinfocomm.com). I have created a database using PostGreSQL on that site for a perl CGI program that I have created. I need to connect to that database with my computer to create some new tables and insert data into them that is stored in .csv files on my local computer. I have tried the psql command without success. Here is the command as it is normally used to connect to a PostGreSQL database on a remote server: psql -h -p -U -d It sits for about 10 minutes before I finally just kill the process. I understand that PostGreSQL is a recent add-on so I will try to provide as much info as I can. Are there any other suggestions?